Saturday, June 18, 2011

FATHER’S DAY SPECIAL: Confessions of an Imperfect Dad

Hey, Dads! Please take this opportunity to fly over to Reece’s Rainbow where there’s a special forum just for dads! I wrote a post there, and I’m a moderator for their forum, so let’s talk!


It’s not even a temptation. I don’t have one inkling in me to gussy up how I look in front of you. At the same time, sounding humble and flawed can also be a form of pride.

That’s why I want to take this Father’s Day as an opportunity to explain that I’m Popeye. You know…”I am what I am.” (Sorry for you youngin’s who don’t know who that sailor is who looks like Jay Leno with balloon forearms.) And that’s why I want to encourage you dads out there, on this Father’s Day weekend, to be true to yourself and to your family.

~~~I get impatient. Just thirty seconds ago I scolded two or three kids (I always lose count) because they go in and out of the front door, providing air conditioning for the entire county where we live. Nice of them, huh?

~~~I get in front of the computer too often. I have this fear of one of my children standing on top of a university tower with a sniper’s rifle in ten years, yelling, “MY OLD MAN WAS ALWAYS IN FRONT OF THE LAPTOP!!!”

~~~Sometimes I hate doing honey-do’s. “Honey, do take out the trash.” “Honey, do clean the kitchen for me.” “Honey, do take the little girls up to the third floor and give them a bath.” Did you hear that? The THIRD FLOOR, for goodness sakes! ‘Would that I were the soccer star I was in high school. I climbed stadium stairs “for fun.”

So sometimes when I read a comment from my or my wife’s blog that reads “You are such a wonderful, Godly family!”, I think, Lady, you just don’t know.


I thank God for Romans 7:25, Romans 7:25, Romans 7:25 (I’m memorizing it)…

“Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

And so…

”This is how we know that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence: If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases him” (1 John 3:19-22).

I love that, dads—“If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.” Don’t you love it? “He knows everything.” Duh! Why would John state the obvious? Because WE NEED TO HEAR IT.

God knows that not only do I love my wife and children with an endearing love but that I am aware of my shortcomings and want to do anything and everything to overcome them. And not only does He know, He is greater than my heart!

So Dad’s, on this Father’s Day 2011, be encouraged that God knows how much you love your family. I make an extra effort, in light of the shortcomings, to let my children know that. And it goes beyond just saying I love them as I tuck each of them in bed every night.

It means focusing on one child at a time as often as possible and affirming them, affirming my love for them, spending “dates” with them, kissing them (even the boys who still allow it!), and doting over them when they want to show me something they made or did.

It means not modeling fatherhood around who my earthly father was, although he was a good man. It means taking God’s example of “knowing” and being “greater than our hearts.” Then it means doing it!

Happy Dad’s Day, Dads!!! I’m praying for each and every one of you.


  1. Dude - you're a Dad - in the fullest sense of the word. Ya see - one of the most important things about Dads is that we have warts - but warts and all we are committed to our families! I haven't known you all that long - and never IRL - but I'm moved to observe that you are worthy of some of the highest praise ever offered by my Dad - "That'll do son, that'll do."

    air five - aus and co.

  2. Aw, thanks, Aus. You're a good man. But isn't that quote, "That'll do, pig. That'll do"?

  3. i really can't tell you how much I think that post was needed.
    so, thanks. we are all human. we are all broken and we all need jesus. It honestly makes me love your family even MORE to hear of human-happenings.
    Always lifting your family up in prayer after I read a post of yours or Adeyes.
    God bless,


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