The other day, I got a heartfelt comment from a woman who opened her heart on paper to me. Beth, as I’ll call her, was a reluctant wife. But now, God has moved on her to start with an adoption!
But listen to what held Beth back. She was not reluctant because she looked inwardly and couldn’t reconcile how she was going to fit this child around her world. She was concerned that she wouldn’t be a good enough mother for an orphan; that with flaws and all, she couldn’t understand why God would choose her to be a fatherless child’s mother.
But through this journey, here’s what God has done in her heart. She's referring to a post I did here entitled "Father's Day Special: Confessions of An Imperfect Dad"...
“Thank you for your honesty. It has helped me to see that it's not the perfect June Cleaver mother an orphan needs. It's a loving, nurturing family that puts God first in everything. A home where "I'm sorry's" and hugs are given freely. Where prayer is the first answer to everything and love is unconditional and modeled after Jesus' example.”
Friends, I cannot tell you what a letter like this does to my heart. Imagine what it does to our heavenly Father’s heart!
You see, her shortcomings were not criminal. They were basic. They are things you and I deal with on a daily basis. They are things that bring us face to face with our humanity in a fallen world.
How, God? How can you use ME???
Or better yet, Why?
I certainly do not have all the answers. (And by the way, God likes it that way. J) But this I do know: A child who lives in relative obscurity (and this is a nice way of wording their “forgotten-ness”), a child who possibly lives with neglect and abuse every day of their life, a child who may even live in a decent orphanage, STILL has no one they can call Mommy or Daddy.
There is literally no one who tucks them into bed at night, prays over them, kisses them on their cheeks, and tells them they love them. There is no emotional protector—someone who picks them up their arms when they’re crying because they’re hurt and whispers to them, “Don’t worry, my love. It will be all better, because there’s a God who will always be here for you, and as long as I’m on Earth, I will always be here for you!”
An orphan does not need a perfect mom or dad. They simply need a mom or dad.
We can be so caught up in the day-to-day minutia of life. One day melts into another until weeks, months and years pass, and we ask ourselves, “Where has the time gone?”
But each and every day counts to a child who does not have what God created them to have—a family. God is all about family. He gave Eve to Adam, then children, as a model of what the heavenly Family is all about.
God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. That’s a family. It’s not this—God Unit Number One, God Unit Number Two, and God Unit Number Three. Nor is it God the CEO, God the President, and God the Senior Vice-President.
God is passionate about marriage and children being in homes. He’s even passionate about widows being taken care of. Why? Because He knows the innate need of every human being, whether they admit it or not, to belong in a family.
And this is what clicked in our friend Beth. And this is what is clicking right now in many of you who are reading this post. Adoption is not about fitting another mouth into our world. It’s not about being the perfect parent. It’s about getting in a car or on a plane to present yourself to a young child to say, “I’m here and I’m your new family.”
God bless all the Beths out there. And God bless you!