Saturday, July 30, 2011

Denying That I'm Alone

There I was in worship on a Sunday morning, doing my best to let go of the world in my mind so I could release everything and praise my Dad.

If you’re like me—a man—you always get the words to worship songs wrong, so you make them up as you sing along.  That’s when I get a slap from the wife next door (as she smiles in resigned hopelessness).  When that happens, I just keep quiet, close my eyes, listen to the words, and start over.

That’s when I heard the phrase.  Wow.  Did I REALLY hear those words?  I’ve never ever heard a phrase like that in a worship song in church before. 

“Deny that you’re alone…”

Sometimes men feel alone.  REALLY alone.  Sometimes we men feel like our wives just don’t get us.  Hey, sometimes I don’t even get myself!

The prospect of adopting a child can be a lonely place for a man.  Until and unless we get a proper, biblical perspective of God’s heart for orphans, we’re always going to blame our wives.

“What the heck, wife?  Why are you doing this to our family?  And we were going SO smoothly as we were.”

Ahhh.  I’ve lived in that city before.  It’s called Status Quo.  It’s just three rock throws from Religious Spirit and down a piece from Comfort Island.  The city of Status Quo is densely populated, and I reckon it’s mainly with men.  (Though woman have been known to rock up on their horse on occasion.)

The city is a miserable place for a Christian.  God keeps beckoning us to move out and ride into the desert where He’ll show us a greater place.  But we don’t.  We like hangin’ out at the saloon with “da boys.”  But we always go home lonely.

But are we alone?

All loneliness as a Christian can be obliterated instantly once we get in touch the God Who Is Always There.  I know that a spouse can never be left alone during their marriage, but they’ll still feel lonely.  The King of kings and the Lord of lords provides a constant buzzing.

Huh?  Lol.  As many of you know by now, last month I fractured at least one vertebra.  I’m off of them now, but when the pain was unrelenting, I was on a narcotic pain killer round the clock.

It didn’t take all the pain away, but I felt a constant “buzzing.”  I wasn’t dopey, which is why I liked it.  I had my full facilities.  I just felt…well…GOOD!  The medicine was flowing continually through my body.

So even though I could feel a little pain, it was okay.  I had a round-the-clock, continual helper.

Father, forgive me for comparing You to drugs!  But the Lord is like a continual presence.  And if the phrase “continual presence” does nothing for you, let me quote someone I’ve admired all of my Christian life.  Only Charles Spurgeon can word it this way.  And I read this devotional on the very day I was writing this post!

On Psalm 73:23 – “Nevertheless, I am continually with thee.”

By this is meant continually upon his mind, he is always thinking of me for my good. Continually before his eye;--the eye of the Lord never sleepeth, but is perpetually watching over my welfare. Continually in his hand, so that none shall be able to pluck me thence. Continually on his heart, worn there as a memorial, even as the high priest bore the names of the twelve tribes upon his heart forever. Thou always thinkest of me, O God. The bowels of thy love continually yearn towards me. Thou art always making providence work for my good. Thou hast set me as a signet upon thine arm; thy love is strong as death, many waters cannot quench it; neither can the floods drown it. Surprising grace! Thou seest me in Christ, and though in myself abhorred, thou beholdest me as wearing Christ's garments, and washed in his blood, and thus I stand accepted in thy presence. I am thus continually in thy favour--"continually with thee."

                                     ~Charles Spurgeon, Morning and Evening, July 29

One word: Wow.

And I haven’t even touched on the powerful verses in Scripture!

Man of God, deny that you are alone.  You may feel like you have no one to talk to about what you’re going through, but that is a lie from the pit of hell itself.  You are IN CHRIST! 

As you consider the prospect of being that “forever father” of some precious orphan some day, remember this:  YOU ARE A FOREVER FRIEND OF CHRIST AND HE IS ALWAYS, ALWAYS WITH YOU!

“You have searched me, LORD, and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you, LORD, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.

                                        ~Psalm 139:1-6


  1. Men are not the only ones who feel alone in marriage. Comunication is hard, at best. Life calls for constant grace. Thank you for the reminder that we are IN Christ, and that we are never alone.

  2. Thank you, Ivy, for your comment. You are absolutely right. Men definitely aren't the only ones.

    I appreciate you reading my blog!

  3. THANK YOU so much for your blog. It has been such a source of encouragement to me. Even though we have a very clear confirmation from the Lord, my husband is still reluctant to adopt again. I have been slowly feeding him your rhs series and I can see God working on his heart. Keep up the great work!

  4. Thank you, Anonymous! I pray that the Father ministers to your husband's heart!


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