Wednesday, July 13, 2011

TESTIMONY: Brian Davis Sounds Off

Ah, I love it when other men "come to the party," as my South African friends would say.

Here's Brian Davis, imparting his heart on the subject of international adoptions and objections one can hear while adopting overseas versus choosing a child from America.

Take a moment and visit the Davis' blog at

Beautifully said, Brian.  And my prayer is that your post touches many, many lives as it did mine!

Why should we adopt internationally?

I’ve been asked this question and asked myself this question several times. The answer is: because it makes a very big statement.

There are a couple different lines you can take when thinking about international adoption.

1. There are children here in America that need a family why not them? Especially when overseas adoption is so much more expensive and there is more corruption in other countries…

2. Haven’t these children already lost enough in losing their family? Now you are going to take away their home country and culture? How can you add that tragedy to their life?

I acknowledge both of these as valid points and I have thought a lot about them, but I would like to write about them another time. Here is what I think outweighs them both.

People who adopt internationally cross great distances, spend inhuman amounts of time in airplanes and airports, navigate foreign lands full of people speaking foreign languages with foreign cultures, eating strange food, negotiating government bureaucracies of two countries, spend huge sums of money, risk life, limb, and personal comfort, and separate their own families, for what?

We’re doing it for a little boy named Jordan.

What does that tell you? Maybe that Americans have too much free time and money. Maybe that we are so full of ourselves that we think we can “rescue” him.

What I hope it tells you and what I want to tell every person we meet on this trip and at home is that Jordan is worth it. Every penny, every second I spend on him is worth it. He deserves it.

People drive Hummers and Ferraris to make a statement about their wealth. People get weird piercings and tattoos to make a statement about their non-conformism. People choose clothes, makeup, hair style, jewelery, their house, their spouse, their church and their food at least partially by what statement their decision makes to the rest of the world. My choice was to do something extravagant for an orphan boy half way around the world. God willing, I’m going to make him my son.

The statement I want to make is that every single child deserves a loving family and they deserve extravagant sacrifices if that’s what it takes to make sure they all get one.

I feel something like I did when I was a new father. Instead of watching the miracle of my first daughter growing in her mother’s womb and being born I am watching the miracle of God bringing Jordan to us. I want to stand on top of the world and hold him up and say, “This is my son! Though he was left alone, I chose him and I love him! He is precious and beautiful and deserves my love!”


  1. Well said Brian - well said!

  2. Again, adoption is so God-like. Such a picture of redemption that mirrors the gospel. When God redeems us, we leave behind our former "culture" and all that is familiar.

  3. Aus, thanks for your comment!

    Shannon, you're so right. When I read Brian's story, I thought of God picking us out, holding us, and proclaiming to the world, "There, you see? That is my son, my daughter!" Love it! Thank you for your comment.

  4. Hello Anthony, I just dropped by to read your blog but I can't help looking at Hailee... her joy is so beautiful to behold, I am in tears remembering what it was like for her before she came to join your family. Asking the Lord to use me like He used your family, for the orphans.

  5. Hi, Susan. Welcome to my blog! Yes, I am continually in awe of a great God. I will never forget holding Hailee in my arms for the first time. She was limp and spacey-eyed from the adult anti-psychotic drug she was fed. I cradled her tiny body and told her, "No more, sweetheart! You're home." Praying that you step through whatever challenge the Father has for your family. Remember, all challenges become all victories when we follow God's will all the time. Praying for you!

  6. Great post!
    It's a myth that int'l adoptions are more expensive than domestic. They're more expensive than adopting through the state obviously, but that's only one of the types of domestic adoptions.
    When we adopted internationally, I think the statement our families chose to hear was: We're completely nuts!
    But we weren't trying to make any statements; we were just trying to save the lives of three children who had no hope.
    The statement I'd like to make now is: My bio kids are not better or more loved than my adoptees!
    Why do the people who were so very unexcited for us to adopt, so very thrilled when we announce a pregnancy?
    Just makes me sad.


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