You have made the courageous choice. You and your spouse are going to adopt. It’s been a journey getting to where you are now, but you’re finally there, and you’re excited beyond description.
…you tell a family member that you thought would be excited for you.
It can be a mother, a father, a sibling, even your own child. And that’s what makes it hurt all the more.
I happen to recall a passage in Scripture that mentions these family members:
Now great multitudes went with Him. And He turned and said to them, “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple.
~ Luke 14:25-27
On the face of it, this passage seems so darn harsh. Gosh, Lord, really? Hate?
We actually do not need to delve into deep theological study of the term hate here to understand what Jesus was getting at. We just need to read the story in its context. Just read from verse 15 to 33. The “hate” passage is buried directly in the middle of one teaching by Jesus—to be my disciple, nothing or no one should get between Me and you!
A disciple is more than a learner or student. A disciple is a devotee. When we signed up for this, dear friends, we put in all of our chips. There’s no turning back.
In 1519, the Spanish explorer Hernando Cortez sailed with 600 men to the shores of Mexico to once and for all conquer Montezuma and the Aztecs occupying there. After unloading provisions, he ordered the ships to be burned. There, on the sandy shore of Vera Cruz, hundreds of men watched as their lifeline back home disintegrated into sea water. There was no turning back.
As disciples of Jesus Christ, we have told the Lord that we are His. We sing songs that we are His. We tell our own family that we are His. We now have a glorious opportunity to show the Lord and the world that we are His. We need to encourage ourselves that once in, we are always in, no matter who comes up against us in what the Lord has told us…even if it’s our own family.
We always answer with words seasoned in grace, and we always listen to what our family says, perchance they are right and we are wrong in some way, but we also must listen to what we know the Master has spoken to our hearts.
“Count it all joy,” count yourself among the wounded, but also brush yourself off and get back into the fray. At the end of the day, at the end of your life, at the end of all time, we answer only to the audience of One.
If you’d like to read the post in my Reluctant Husband Syndrome series entitled “Question 7: What will my extended family say, and will they accept my adopted child?”, go here.