Thursday, February 23, 2012

The Ambush of Internet Sex: Step One Toward Healing--The Choice

“I have discovered that there is greater joy in serving the Lord than in the temporary pleasure of Internet sex, without any of the guilt and shame. Indeed, there is liberty only in Christ Jesus, my Lord.”       
     ~ "Scott," 53, who was set free four years
            ago from porn addiction.

Freedom is a choice.  The very first place to begin a journey of healing from the snare of Internet sex is choosing to be free.  “Scott,” whose name I changed for the sake of this post, made a choice that enough was enough.

But believe it or not, although Christians may say that they’re very ashamed of their actions, many are not ashamed enough to quit.  Even though they once fell in love with their Jesus.

Is that even possible?  The prophet Jeremiah found out.  God inspired him to write down these words in Jeremiah 2:1-13.  I cannot possibly not publish the entire passage.  It may be lengthy, but it is so very relevant to what we’re talking about in this series. 

The word of the LORD came to me: “Go and proclaim in the hearing of Jerusalem:
This is what the LORD says:

I remember the devotion of your youth,
how as a bride you loved me
and followed me through the wilderness,
through a land not sown.

Israel was holy to the LORD,
the firstfruits of his harvest;
all who devoured her were held guilty,
and disaster overtook them,
declares the LORD.

Hear the word of the LORD, you descendants of Jacob,
all you clans of Israel.

This is what the LORD says:

What fault did your ancestors find in me,
that they strayed so far from me?

They followed worthless idols
and became worthless themselves.
They did not ask, ‘Where is the LORD,
who brought us up out of Egypt
and led us through the barren wilderness,
through a land of deserts and ravines,
a land of drought and utter darkness,
a land where no one travels and no one lives?’

I brought you into a fertile land
to eat its fruit and rich produce.
But you came and defiled my land
and made my inheritance detestable.

The priests did not ask,

 ‘Where is the LORD?’
Those who deal with the law did not know me;
the leaders rebelled against me.
The prophets prophesied by Baal,
following worthless idols.

Therefore I bring charges against you again,”
declares the LORD.
“And I will bring charges against your children’s children.
Cross over to the coasts of Cyprus and look,
send to Kedar and observe closely;
see if there has ever been anything like this:
Has a nation ever changed its gods?
(Yet they are not gods at all.)

But my people have exchanged their glorious God
for worthless idols.

Be appalled at this, you heavens,
and shudder with great horror,”
declares the LORD.

“My people have committed two sins:
They have forsaken me,
the spring of living water,
and have dug their own cisterns,
broken cisterns that cannot hold water.”

The first thing that stands out in this passage to me is how hurt the Lord feels.  Now this may throw off some Christian scholars who feel they know God better than you or I do.  But I truly believe with all of my heart that what God is communicating in the first part of this passage is how He has lost the heart of “his bride,” as He tells us.  Why else would He use that terminology?

And the Lord goes out of His way to recount all the things He has done for His people, yet, they betrayed Him with their idolatry.

Internet sex is idolatry in the highest sense.  Idolatry means we redirect our worship of the one true God to focus it on something or someone else.  Why?  Because that object of our affection gives us something we feel that God cannot.  The sensations we feel when we engage in Internet pornography or chatting or illicit affairs far outweigh what I’ve ever felt from God.

And that is very, very, very sad.  Why?  Because God tells us plainly that we’re really missing out.  In our sin, we have not only forsaken Him, but we’ve blown it. 

God often gives us word pictures in the Scripture to convey a truth.  As you know, when Jesus spoke of being “thirsty” in John 7:37-38, He wasn’t referring to needing liquid to quench a physical thirst.  He meant that deep, deep ache that only comes when our souls lack something significant in life—the life of Jesus!  And yes, even Christians can experience the ache of distance from our Lord.  Mankind suffers miserably when this thirst is not quenched.  It’s like being in the Sahara desert for a week without water.  Everything in us screams, “WATER!”

In John 7, Jesus says it simply.  In so many words, He says, You’re thirsty?  That’s easy.  Come to me.  Drink me in and won’t you be.  You’ll be flooded with water.

Here in Jeremiah, the Lord has a sense of humor.  It’s like He’s saying, You’re thirsty?  I see that.  You’re sweating your behind off digging and digging and digging cisterns, or wells that catch water, so that you can finally quench that thirst.  Meanwhile, right next to you, there’s a GEYSER of water that sprays all over the place!  But no.  You have to do it YOUR way.  Well, as you’ll find out if you haven’t already—your way doesn’t quench the thirst!

The fact is, friends, when we dig our own wells and feel the trickle of sexual excitement from the Internet, it not only leaves us high and dry.  It throws us into the well and throws away the key!

In John 8:34, Jesus Himself says, “Very truly I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.” 

And so…I imagine that’s why you’re reading this post right now.  You’re sick of being a slave to sin.

I want you to be so sick of it that you really mean business.  If you do, MAKE THE CHOICE TO BE FREE RIGHT NOW!  It is never too late.
Your geyser awaits.


  1. Praise God for people like you boldly speaking out about this ambush! I will pass along your blog address.

    -Alisha from

  2. Thank you so much, Alisha! God bless you. And I appreciate your prayers as we attack this scourge head-on.


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