This is the most rewarding part of our series on Internet sex addictions. It’s also the hardest part.
I have used this type of therapy on myself off and on in my life as I went through struggles of many types. I have also exercised this therapy on many people I have counseled over the years. It may be grueling, but that’s the point. And it works.
The 2-10-5 Journal, as I call it, is named after the second part of the following Scripture passage in 2 Corinthians 10:4-5:
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.
And it goes like this:
- REPENT. This is a necessary place to start. Ask the Lord to not only forgive you for your addiction (because it IS sin), but also ask Him to empower you for the next steps.
- Buy a journal with many pages that’s small enough to fit in a man’s pocket or a woman’s purse.
- Keep this journal and a pen with you at all times, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, etc.
- Make for yourself a time frame that’s reasonable and non-negotiable. I would not make that time frame shorter than three weeks (remember, it generally takes three weeks to unlearn a habit and learn a new one). A good period would be for 30 days straight. Never skip a day.
- Be completely aware of each and every thought that comes to mind, from now until the 30-day period is over. (I told you it would be grueling!)
- IN THE FIRST THREE DAYS, whenever you entertain a negative thought (i.e., letting a sexual temptation or evil thought linger in your mind), take out your journal and pen and record that thought. Make sure you put the date and the time.
- AFTER THE FIRST THREE DAYS, set your watch alarm or phone to go off EVERY HOUR ON THE HOUR (except, of course, when you’re sleeping). When the alarm sounds, take out your journal and pen and record the negative thoughts you had in the last hour.
It is arduous.
It is time-consuming.
It is a royal pain in the keister!
And it’s the most glorious method of training yourself to “bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”
In the first couple of weeks, I guarantee you will want to through that darn journal out the window. But don’t do it! Hang in there. You will eventually realize that you’ve been training yourself NOT to entertain thoughts you shouldn’t because the penalty—journaling!—is too great.
You will be tempted to skip an hour or two. But be warned. If you do, the method will most definitely fail. That means, no matter where you are, no matter what you are doing, no matter how busy you are, you must take 15 seconds every hour to record. Even if you’re in a restaurant with Nelson Mandela, excuse yourself to go to the restroom, then record! You are training yourself for a new lifestyle that will ensure you freedom for the rest of your life until Jesus comes.
You say, but Anthony, that is SO extreme! Yep. It surely is. But isn’t it time that you take extreme measures if you’re truly serious about ending this horrible pull to Internet sex? I am only giving you a means to fulfill our Lord’s mandate to you in 2 Cor. 10:5. Remember, as it states in verse 4, the object is to “pull down” strongholds. NOT to gently and leisurely invite them down. You must DRAG DOWN those bad boys. If you want to get rid enemy terrorists hiding in a foxhole who are trying to kill you, you don’t toss in a pretty purple smoke bomb. You fire in a rocket-propelled grenade!!
Begin now, men and women. Do not let this idea fade from your memory. Make it a point to find or buy a journal as soon as you finish reading this post. We need to treat this sickness like it’s a matter of life and death. And for you, it IS!
There’s no turning back. You are officially on the road to freedom. And just imagine. Once this new you gets into gear, can you imagine the victory you will have in other areas of your life? EVERY area of challenge, of hurt, of opposition will be under control as you control your thoughts according to 2 Cor. 10:5! Remember, our Lord says...
"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery" (Galatians 5:1).
I am praying for you and for your spouse and for your family!